Life's Not What Society Says It Is


2012-11-24 18.58.30

As a young child I read “No Excuse” by Jay Rifenbary. Jay taught me that at West Point cadets are only allowed to answer officers with “Yes Sir,” “No Sir,” “I don’t understand Sir,” and “No Excuse Sir.” Whatever they’ve done wrong they can have no excuse. If they’re being told off they can’t defend themselves, they just have to suck it up, take responsibility, and resolve to do better next time. Jay sought to make his readers take up the same level of personal accountability.

More recently Seth Godin taught me about “The Dip” which is a way of expressing the learning curve. Learning experiences start out invigorating and joyful then you drop into the dip and learning is a grind. Most people decide not to finish their undertaking here. Read the rest of this entry »



My Mum has a story about a dog lying on a wooden veranda and every few minutes he shifts a little and sighs. A visitor asks the owner why the dog is doing that and the owner explains that the dog is lying on a nail. The nail hurts the dog but not enough for the dog to bother moving.

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2013-06-04 09.43.52

One coalition for
One term for
One purpose:
Destabilising Australia’s two-party dictatorship.

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2013-06-02 11.37.35

As a child I read a lot of self-help books and most of them had the aim of enabling the reader to be wealthy and successful. One concept that kept cropping up under different names was the worth of reminding yourself of your vision everyday. There are many ways to do this, daily verbal affirmations, post-it notes with key details where you can’t fail to see them, and vision boards. Back then I tried a few of them but couldn’t figure out what all the hype was about because after a few days the reminders all became boring. I stopped seeing them, they didn’t help me and if anyone else saw them I was embarrassed.

But I now have cause to reconsider the worth of vision reminders.

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So This Is DIDO

2013-05-15 17.32.11

I have a husband. But sometimes it doesn’t feel like it.

This is in no way his fault. He took a drive-in, drive-out job on a nine days on, five days off roster to get us out of a small town where neither of us fit in and so we could be closer to IVF and higher education providers. It cost him a delay in his dream of going to Europe and it means I still don’t have to work.

So when I tell you that I sometimes feel like I don’t have a husband it is with a mortifying sense of guilt. He is doing everything in his power to make this relationship work for us, for me, and sometimes I struggle to remember he is there. How bad is that?

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